Thu Sep 26 15:02:40 UTC 2024: ## Friend-Phobic? Why We Keep Our Social Circles Separate, and Why We Shouldn’t
**New York, NY:** For many of us, the idea of our different friend groups mingling is akin to a social apocalypse. But is this fear of merging circles simply a sign of insecurity, or a genuine need for social compartmentalization?
Slate writer and admitted friend-phobe, [Author’s Name], explores this common anxiety, confessing that he spent years carefully segregating his various friend groups, fearing the potential for social chaos if they ever met.
“What if they all met and compared notes?” he writes, envisioning his friends sharing embarrassing anecdotes and shattering the carefully crafted personas he’d built for each group.
However, as he’s gotten older, he’s realized that his fears were unfounded. In fact, introducing his friends to each other has actually strengthened his own social standing, as his friends are often impressed by the diverse and interesting people he knows.
But is this fear of social merging simply a product of insecurity, or is there a genuine need for compartmentalization?
Social psychologist Jaimie Krems explains that the desire to keep friend groups separate is “likely normal.” She explains that “adults commonly feel friendship jealousy at the prospect of friends coming to prefer another person’s company to one’s own.”
However, Harvard professor Arthur Brooks notes that combining certain types of friend groups, like close childhood friends with work colleagues, can sometimes feel like a “burden.”
Ultimately, the author concludes that while some level of social compartmentalization may be understandable, holding back from introducing friends to each other can ultimately be detrimental.
“It’s not meeting new friends that can kill existing friendships; it’s the selfish drive to keep people who’d like each other apart,” he writes.
So, the next time you’re hesitant to introduce two friends, remember that social expansion is a good thing. Let those friendships bloom!
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