– The person writing to Dear Deidre is in an affair with a married man who has four children
– The man and the writer are very close and living together, but the man does not want to have more children
– The writer wants to have children and is struggling with the idea of not being able to have them with the man she loves
– The man’s wife is willing to take him back, and the writer is torn between her desires for a family and her love for the man
– Dear Deidre advises the writer to have a serious conversation with the man about their future plans and to consider if she is willing to be a stepmother to his four children
– The writer is encouraged to seek emotional support as she considers her options for the relationship.